Resilience in life today, in a situation where each of us is grappling with bizarre crises, is an important priority that we should not overlook.
Experience has shown psychologists and researchers that resilient people usually have close relationships with family and friends, have learned communication skills, listen well, have great empathy, and have a strongly supportive and emotional network. So they can talk to someone about their concerns and challenges, benefit from their advice, kindness, and support, and discover new solutions.
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They generally have a favorable view of themselves and are confident in their abilities and strengths. Usually, we all have an idea of ourselves and our abilities, called “self-image.” This self-image is not far from the person’s natural abilities, tested in different real experiences. If there is a distance between the “self-image” and the “real self,” one encounters serious conflicts. In resilient individuals, the self-image gives the image of a strong and self-confident “self,” but this perception has been proven in practice. In other words, in their experiences, small and large, from childhood to any age at which they are, they realize that they can manage strong and impulsive emotions and better skills, sense of problems and good communication, and somehow have a strong sense of control. So resilient people feel valued; Value means accepting ourselves as valuable people and respecting ourselves and our abilities. Unconditionally love and try to recognize your strengths and nurture them, and on the other hand, acknowledge your weaknesses and do not hide them.
Nevertheless, despite these abilities, resilient people have a unique characteristic that perhaps in these days when people tend to show that they have some kind of omnipotence. And can overcome all their challenges, it is a trophy; That they seek help and use the resources available to help in times of crisis. They are flexible people. They are neither victims nor “all power”! They can be their own observer in a crisis situation and assess and use their abilities and at the same time see the available ways to help to finally use a healthy way to deal with a stressful situation. You must be asking what the unhealthy way is? The unhealthy way usually sets in when a harmful coping strategy starts to work.
Imagine for a second you were transposed into the karmic-driven world of Earl. This is definitely a stressful situation. Resilient people can count on those around them who understand this new situation, talk about it so that their feelings can be expressed, and they can calm down by empathizing. At the same time, they can count on themselves to be employed in a new position soon, and if they do not think of it away, they can turn to others for help. They generally do not deny the difficulty of the new situation. Still, They do not throw themselves into the valley of destructive behaviors caused by the problem. However, they accept and do not deny their discomfort but do not let that feeling overshadow their behavior so much that they forget it is time to solve the problem. Some of these resilient people, even in this situation, may seek to find meaning in this event (for example, I may need to reconsider my career path), etc. But as mentioned, the harmful coping strategy is all to get stuck in The trap of destructive behaviors resulting from this stressful situation ends; Like falling into the trap of depression, aggression, denial, anxiety, and extreme prejudices about the future based on the failure that has been achieved.
Of course, the riskier the situation, the lower the expectation of resilience, even from resilient people, but resilient people firmly believe that “the future can be better” and have a sense of hope and purpose, thinking they can control their lives and their future. Possibly can not stop them.
Ultimately, resilient people take responsibility for their own circumstances and do not blame external sources for every problem, failure, or issue. This does not mean that no environmental action affects the events of human life, but it may be an essential point in accepting one’s share in life. Otherwise, it is clear that some factors are beyond our control, such as natural disasters or pandemics, but people are resilient. While recognizing the cause of problems, they can positively influence their situation and future by finding solutions. In this pandemic, they accept their share in improving and controlling the situation. They wear masks and do not fail to get vaccinated because they both have the power of empathy and receive their share of issues.